We’ve definitely gotten into a better routine. Taso actually sleeps through the night (first of my boys to do this so young) and we’re working on getting Leo back to a normal sleep routine. Now that I feel a little more settled (some days) into this stay at home life, I really wanted to sit down and make a list of promises to myself for the coming year. Not resolutions, but actual promises that I intend to keep in order to help my family and myself be happy and healthy. So here we go:
1. We will go to the gym.
We joined a gym as a family that offers childcare. It has been a godsend for ALL of us! I was getting to that point of eating whatever and whenever just because it was the holidays and I could use “baby weight” as my excuse. But then, it got to the point where no clothes were fitting and I was getting upset. I have given myself time and grace to recover from having three babies within four years, but now it is time to focus on getting healthy not just for myself, but for everyone’s well-being. I love that Todd and I both get to feel better about getting back into shape and the older two get to socialize and play in a fun environment. I wasn’t ready to put Taso in a daycare situation especially with it being winter, so my mom has been generous enough to take him for those times that we go, which I’m trying to do twice a week.
2. I will take time for myself.
Not every parent has this chance, but I am lucky enough to have help when I really need it in order to get a break from being “mama”. This comes in various ways from getting to go meet friends for dinner, to getting my nails done. My husband, mom, sisters, in-laws, etc are the best and I feel blessed to get some of the coveted “me” time that people need more than ever these days. I also now want this time for myself to include keeping this blog going. I’m really, really going to make the effort to get at least one post up per week because it is something that I have come to enjoy doing!
3. I will try to have patience.
This one is tough, and has gotten more and more difficult over the past few months. On the days that I am on my own with all three boys, I will admit that my patience wears very thin. Other days, I wake up and its already gone before getting downstairs. But then there are the days where I am amazingly calm, and everything just seems to go better. I need to keep this in mind, and try to remember to breathe, relax and then talk. It is easy for me to say this on a day like today where *miraculously* all three children are napping at the same time. (Leo hasn’t actually done this since August). So I am currently on cloud 9, enjoying some peace & quiet. But truly, having patience makes a difference in everyone’s behavior and moods. It is definitely something that I need to continuously work on!
4. I will do MORE.
This might seem like a vague statement, and possibly a contradiction to promise #2, but I meant it to be that way. I just want to do more in so many different areas – more projects with the kids, more around the house, more adventures with the kids, projects for myself, etc. Once I find a better balance of that coveted “me” time, I really want to make sure that I am accomplishing other things to keep myself motivated!
5. I will find the joy.
I am determined to try to focus more on the good than the bad. I’ve gotten into a bad habit of getting in my own head and really harping on all of the bad stuff that happens throughout my day – the tantrums, the yelling, the crying, the messes, the feelings of failure. I never realized how many emotions one person could feel within 12 hours. But I am going to take the time to reflect on each day and find the joy. Find the good. In reality, there is usually more good than bad, but as I think most of us tend to do, we let the bad overshadow it all and call it a “bad day”. When I realized that I was having more “bad days” than usual, it really got me thinking that something has to change and that something is my own mindset. I am going to find the joy in each day and even though I might still feel like it was an overall bad one, there is going to be something good that came from it.
I am so glad to be back on this platform and writing again. I am so thankful that I have you all to share life with! Hope you enjoyed and come up with your own promises to yourself, even if it is just one. Have a great week and stay warm my Midwest friends!