Just because we had a baby or three doesn’t mean that we don’t want to be invited. Just because we will most likely have to say no, even though we desperately want to get out of the house, doesn’t mean that we don’t want to be invited. Just because we sometimes don’t have a choice, doesn’t mean that we don’t want to be invited.
Becoming a mom to three young boys in a very short amount of time has totally changed my life. Of course I love them and would give my life for them. Of course I am blessed to have them. Of course. Of course.
But.
There’s a but.
My. Life. Has. Changed...Big Time.
I don’t get the luxury of a spur-of-the-moment date night, meeting friends for a coffee on a whim, or just having a day to do whatever I feel like.Those days are long gone. And that’s ok.
But it doesn’t mean that I don't want to do those things. It doesn’t mean that I don’t desperately miss my friends. It doesn’t mean that I don't wish that I could make time for it all.
Friendships and relationships change when marriage and kids are thrown in the mix. It has to. Even when both friends are in a similar position, with a husband, or a baby or multiple babies, things just change—and sometimes you grow apart.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
If we could all just be honest with each other and say “Hey, it hurts that I never hear from you anymore” or “it really sucks that every time I invite you to hang out, you say no”. From both sides of the equation, there can be feelings of hurt and sadness...even anger.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
How about we all just have that conversation? Yep, it’s probably going to be awkward as hell. Yep, it’s probably going to make someone mad or cry.
But what if it makes things better?
What if it just makes your friendship stronger?
I guess we'll never know until we try.
Becoming a mom to three young boys in a very short amount of time has totally changed my life. Of course I love them and would give my life for them. Of course I am blessed to have them. Of course. Of course.
But.
There’s a but.
My. Life. Has. Changed...Big Time.
I don’t get the luxury of a spur-of-the-moment date night, meeting friends for a coffee on a whim, or just having a day to do whatever I feel like.Those days are long gone. And that’s ok.
But it doesn’t mean that I don't want to do those things. It doesn’t mean that I don’t desperately miss my friends. It doesn’t mean that I don't wish that I could make time for it all.
Friendships and relationships change when marriage and kids are thrown in the mix. It has to. Even when both friends are in a similar position, with a husband, or a baby or multiple babies, things just change—and sometimes you grow apart.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
If we could all just be honest with each other and say “Hey, it hurts that I never hear from you anymore” or “it really sucks that every time I invite you to hang out, you say no”. From both sides of the equation, there can be feelings of hurt and sadness...even anger.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
How about we all just have that conversation? Yep, it’s probably going to be awkward as hell. Yep, it’s probably going to make someone mad or cry.
But what if it makes things better?
What if it just makes your friendship stronger?
I guess we'll never know until we try.
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